When You Grow Up Without Tradition by Kathy J. Bain
Award winning author Kathryn J. Bain’s fifth book, Beautiful Imperfection, was released September 29, 2013. Her book Catch Your Breath took Third Place in the 2013 Heart of Excellence Contest for her inspirational romance and Breathless took First Place for Inspirational Romance in the 2010 Royal Palm Literary Awards.
She was the President of Florida Sisters in Crime from 2010-2012 and is currently the Public Relations Director for Ancient City Romance Authors. Kathryn has also been a paralegal for over twenty years and works for an attorney who specializes in elder law.
Kathryn grew up in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho. In 1981, she moved to Boise, but it apparently wasn’t far enough south, because two years later she headed to Jacksonville, Florida, and has lived in the sunshine ever since.
When Fay asked me to donate a Christmas story to Inner Source, I was tempted to say no. After all, I had no Christmas traditions growing up. There was never anything special that we did as a family besides visit other family. Unfortunately most of these involved alcohol.
My father was an alcoholic. The only sure thing we knew about Christmas Eve was he’d be drunk. Even worse, he’d not be jolly like Santa. My father wasn’t a very nice man, whether drunk or sober.
When you have someone in your family who drinks, there are no traditions. At least not any you want to pass on to your children.
That’s why when my daughter, Amanda, was born, I wanted to do something special each year. I was a single mother at the time so it wasn’t like I could afford something as fancy as Rockefeller Center. Even the local playing of “The Nutcracker” was out of reach. So I decided on pajamas.
So every Christmas Eve I gave my daughter a new pair of pajamas. Years later, when my youngest was born, I did the same for her. To some, this might not seem like a big deal, but to us, it became our tradition. And the kids looked forward to it every year.
Both my girls are grown now. And this year, my oldest blessed me with a wonderful granddaughter, Hope. Amanda called the other day and asked if she was supposed to buy Hope’s pajamas or do I? I asked her why. Maybe she couldn’t afford it. Starting a photography business can put a crimp in your pocket book at times.
But, in fact, Amanda had already bought pajamas for her daughter. She just called to make sure our tradition was that the parents buy the pajamas for their own kids.
It warmed my heart to know she wanted to pass this tradition on to her child. It just goes to show, sometimes the simple things are the most remembered. As long as love is involved, those memories will stick.
Merry Christmas to everyone. I pray for you all a blessed New Year.
Kathy is the author of Breathless, Catch Your Breath, and her latest novel, Beautiful Imperfections.
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